How confident do you appear to others?
Confidence is a state of mind, a state of being. When you don’t feel like you look your best, or feel your best, this will affect your confidence. There is a bit of a clue here….
Confident people inspire confidence in others. Gaining confidence of others is one of the key ways in which you could help to keep your self confidence levels up.
Self confidence is a really important aspect in most of our lives yet so many people struggle to find it. The good news is is that self confidence can be learnt and built upon. However, it will take time and it will take effort but the rewards are well worth it.
What is really scary is that the people you thought you knew, who see you start to develop and change and grow confident within yourself are the very ones who try and keep you back in life. You must learn to walk away from what does not serve you.
So what are the signs of low self-esteem, or low confidence levels?
When someone pays you a compliment do you dismiss them as if it were nothing or do you accept the compliment graciously.
If you dismissed the compliment then you are suffering from low self-esteem.
Are you comfortable in your comfort zone? Those who are low in self-confidence would feel more comfortable staying in their comfort zone, fearing things such as failure and therefore avoid taking risks.
Having a low self confidence in yourself can be very destructive not only to you, but to your health and to those around you, and it often manifests itself through negativity. Negativity then leads to mental health issues and stress and then the body and health goes downhill.
So, how can we build self-confidence?
Your level of confidence can show In different ways to people, through the way you hold yourself, your posture, the way you talk, your body language and so on.
Anthony Robbins teaches that you can change your physiology and this will change other things about you, like the way you think and see yourself, so holding your head up instead of down, the way you walk, walk with certainty, they way you talk with confidence, firm and not shaky voice. When you follow this, your posture and your spirit will change.
Some people believe that self-confidence can be achieved and built through affirmations and positive thinking. There is some substance in this, but there are other ways in which you can build your self-confidence and as long as you have the focus and determination to carry things through then it is achievable. Your confidence comes from taking action.
When you set goals, and achieve those goals you become confident in yourself and confidence will build from there so let’s start with thinking about what’s important to you and where you want to go.
Improving your skills to develop a more confident you!
So if you identify the skills you need to develop in order to be more confident by looking at your goals, your strengths, and your weaknesses, you will know which ones you need to acquire confidently and well.
As long as you keep on stretching yourself enough, but not too much, you’ll find your self-confidence building apace. What’s more, you’ll have earned your self-confidence – because you’ll have put in the hard graft necessary to be successful!