So we are now in week 2 heading for week 3 of 2020. How are you getting on with the changes you promised yourself at the beginning of the year?
Every year we are motivated right at the start of a New Year to make changes in our lives, in our health and in our jobs. Do you know how many actually carry this through?
Less that 10%.
Shocking isn’t it.
Do you want to be like the 90% that either started but did not finish, or like those that just did not START?
Look, we know that resolutions don’t work. The estimate is that less than 10% of New Year’s resolutions are actually achieved (University of Scranton Psychology Professor John C. Norcross, Ph.D.)
So what can be done instead?
Build Upon Existing Habits
Rather than try and create new goals, build upon existing habits. So if your habit is to ‘be more healthier’ build upon what are you doing now. So if you are having takeaways three times a week, promise yourself to reduce your take away habit to 2 or even 1 times a week. If you already walk 2 or 3 miles, then just make a point of adding on another 10 – 15 minutes of walking or another 1 mile.
Building on existing habits is a lot easier to do as you are already doing them, all you are doing is adjusting them to include or exclude areas to help you achieve the goals you are looking for.
How Are You Speaking To Yourself
Self stories are just as important as you setting a goal. Whether you realize it or not, you make decisions based on staying true to your self-stories subconsciously. If you think that you can’t do something, you just sent out that vibe and that thought and the brain picked up on it subconsciously and will ensure you can not do what ever it is you wanted to do.
You strive to be consistent. You want to make decisions that match your idea of who you are. When you make a decision or act in a way that fits your self-story, the decision or action will feel right. When you make a decision or act in a way that doesn’t fit your self-story you feel uncomfortable. But it is this feeling of discomfort that the brain always outs out to protect you, to keep you in your comfort zone, however, if you push through it will drive you to completing amazing goals.
If how you speak to yourself is something you need to improve, then self affirmations are a great start. However, always state them in the present tense of I AM.
You see your wonderful, powerful brain does not know what is real or not real, what is existing or not. If you can visualise and imagine it, then your brain will do its best to try and make this appear real. It will drive you to completing the goal or task you set yourself. For instance, Athletes visualise all the time, they actually run the race in their head, before they go out and complete it in track or on field events.
One way of helping you visualise is to do a ‘Vision Board’. More on this subject later, but you can google about it if you like.
Feel You Have Already Achieved Your Goal
When you set a goal, imagine in yourself how you would feel if you achieved that goal, what would your emotions be like, where are you when you achieve your goal, what smells are around you, who is around you, what would others around you do if you achieved that goal, capture that feeling, that positivity when you always think about achieving that goal you set yourself.
These tips are by no means extensive, and I am sure you have heard some if not all of this already, but now is a timely reminder to get down your new goals, or review your old ones, do you need to revise them, dust them off and pick them up again.
I would love to hear from you of other ways you can help to stay focussed and on track with achieving goals or even setting goals.
We have only just started 2020 so whatever you do do not quit!
Personal Development Book to help with goal setting: A 5-Step Plan for Achieving Your Most Important Goals Author: Michael Hyatt available on Amazon Book Store